Empathy puts us in the student's shoes. Some students are bewildered by choice and may shut down if not given the clear option of following a straight and narrow path. Empathy requires that we cater to their needs, but not that we restrict options open to others. Our designs should offer choices that increase in diversity, slowly nudging everyone into taking responsibility - even if only partially - for their own learning. This is necessary because we, as teachers, cannot know what they "need to know" and should not be speculating about this beyond simply to identify the most fundamental skills that any fully functioning, autonomous person typically depends on.